Ah, Soul Mates. The world loves to talk about soul mates. We love to feel as if there is another person out there who, when at last we meet, will complete us.
- Problem: We only complete ourselves. We need to be whole human beings. Our partners can be wonderful complements to who we are and incredible companions, but it’s unfair to burden them with the job of fulfilling our destiny.
- Another Problem: I often think we look for soul mates when we’re floundering about in our problems. Anything and anyone outside our lives looks to have great answers. Hello, Governor Sanford, I’m talking to you.
- And one last problem: If we determine that a particular person is our soul mate, the minute something goes wrong, we have to demonize them. And infatuation causes us to see only the grand things. Living day-by-day causes us to see the whole person, who however wonderful, is always going to squeeze the toothpaste from the middle, or something equally annoying.
I’ll ponder for a while about whether I think we become soul mates, or whether we might just as well find a new term to describe a beloved partner with whom we’ve grown into accord. Wow, I know, how about beloved partner?
Tip: Am I crazy? what do you think? write and let me know!
Build the wedding ceremony and the wedding vows that will lead you to happily and healthily ever after. Here are the products that will take you where you want to go!
Tip: Now go get them before they disappear!
Over in the e-book section of the shop there are great bargains to be had on the tips products. Each of the booklets will walk (and sometimes even waltz) you through some of the more difficult decisions made by brides and grooms (whom to invite, whom to ask to stand up with you, your wedding style, and the basis for your wedding and marriage). Get these booklets and make good decisions that will keep you engaged and celebrating your up-coming nuptials and marriage!
Tip: Working through one of these workbooklets will make you feel as great as my SweetPea and I did when we watched these fireworks captured by my buddie Barbie at last night’s opening to the 4th of July week here in Lewisburg.
Strong wedding vows make strong and lasting marriages. Crafting your own vows engages you in the creation and sustaining of wedding vows that you’re willing and able to keep. Today, Governor Sanford can say that he was sexually unfaithful to his wife… how many different parts of his wedding covenants did he break before sex entered into the picture?
Wedding vows have to be crafted to suit your talents and support your weaknesses. They also need to be a working document to which your committed. Marriage is a process not an occasion.
Big sale today on the Wedding Vow Workbook that helps you learn:
What’s in a vow.
Why you want to make an oath to one another.
How your keeping your vows is integral to your integrity.
What your relationship values are.
What you’re willing to risk, compromise and promise.
How important your respect and love is for your partner.
Where you think your relationship might need support.
How to find the metaphors that will support your vows.
Why you want to use formal language to make your vows.
Why you should make the same vows to one another.
How to create the vows you’ll want to keep, together.
Tip: This simple workbook can help you create the vows that you will want to keep forever. Not a bad investment of your time and money, eh?
Those of you who are steady readers of this blog know that we’re slowly building a new look! Now it’s time for some store remodeling. Some things will go away, some things will reappear in a new format. But what this means is great savings to you.
Tip: Check out what’s available and cash in on some big savings now! Even if the look is “wrong” the information is going to help you build a better wedding ceremony, stronger wedding vows and an incredible marriage. (and at a price you like!)
The Wedding Priestess has been walking around mulling this over in her head. The only reason Smart Girls Marry Money by Ford and Drake is interesting is that we’re looking at an institution gone wrong. Most of us would hesitate before an operation with only a 50 percent survival rate, particularly if our chances of muddling through without it were so-so as well.
But we often don’t think before we marry about how we’re going to make this relationship work. Hey, I’m a geezer babe, supposedly full of wisdom, and I never thought about this. Steve’s and my marriage is odder than most in the way we have arranged our money and our marriage.
But money matters. We’re finding that out as everyone hits the recession. You have to plan wisely for your family. Even wise planning doesn’t always help, but planning helps better than no planning. How are the two of you going to provide for your family? And by family, read that not only as your darling babes and their college educations, but also as your retirement. Money is one of those things that breaks marriages up, and guess what, when you break up a marriage, money doesn’t get easier and the fighting doesn’t stop. Particularly if there are children. So, not so helpful.
Tip: This is one of those things that you can talk about. This is one of those things you should talk about. Plan for your future. Because whether or not you do, it’s coming. Sometimes it’s better to plan.
Wedding Priestess offers you her sincerest congratulations! You’re a good enough friend of the bride and/or groom that you’ve been invited to make a toast. There’s nothing sweeter than to be able to tell a friend publicly how much you love and admire them. We don’t do this often enough, publicly or privately. This is a big deal. So let me make it all easier for you: Here’s a quick 3-part series that will make it all flow easily for you: Before you start building the toast, here are a few things to keep in mind:
- It should be short. No, really short.
- It should be complimentary. No “funny” horror stories.
- It should thank them for the honor of representing their community and being their friend.
- It should be about the bride and groom and not about you. Talk about why they’re good candidates for this wonderful relationship and right for each other.
- It always ends with a toast to their future. Wish them the best life possible. (and they say you should always toast with alcohol!)
Tip: Offering your friends respect, encouragement and well-wishes is an art form we would all do well to cultivate. Let’s not let it die! Let’s figure it out and knock the ball out of the park. You do look so much cuter when you’re delivering a heartfelt message, so why not do something wonderful and have it reflect well on you – forever!
Don’t overlook the simple but elegant solution: #10. Make it: I had friend do this for me. The dress was perfect for me and I looked stunning. Now, I know a lot of people so my odds are greater of knowing someone. But if I could find someone in nowhere Pennsylvania who did not just sewing, but design, my guess is you might too! And with a little work on Google or even a (gasp) phonebook, you could find someone.
Tip: What’s great about this is that you get to select the fabrics and the pattern. So everything is just perfect. And sometimes, if you do it with a friend, it’s an incredible amount of fun!
The New and Different #9. Rented: Yep. Renting. It’s not just for tuxes anymore. And they have to dry clean it! Some people are just too sentimental for this.
Tip: go read Elizabeth Oake’s article on this!
The Daring #8: Shared: I’ve only found this once. But if I’ve encountered it, it’s been done before and since. Someone actually advertised and found someone her own size and taste and they bought a gown together. They didn’t know one another and were getting married a few months apart. Could have been tragic, if bride number one had had spaghetti for her wedding meal, but bride number two had another option up her sleeve if that tanked! More common is someone you know has a dress, and is willing to lend it to you.
Tip: Think outside the box here. There are lots of ways to share dresses with people if you just think a bit about it! This makes the entire experience much cheaper!