On the Fourth Day of Christmas, my sweetness gave to me
Four calling friends
Three snow strolls
Two nestling hearts
And a day free of expectations.
One of the most important indicators of successful marriage is supportive and involved friends. So many of us live far from our very favorite friends, but there are always people around we want to know better.
It’s a light work week this week, consider having people over Sunday evening for a bowl of soup. Don’t cook? Buy it! Get some good bread and some good cheese and mull some wine and you’re good to go. And chocolate, chocolate’s always a good idea.
Four is a goodly number of people to invite because it’s not so large a group that people have to break into smaller subsets and small enough that it would be awkward if they did. So bingo, you’ve got conversation happening! Remember that when you’re meeting friends, they don’t all need to be your age. You’re getting married. This might be a fun time to get some advice from people with marriage experience!
You could do some holiday research that will be helpful as you develop your own holiday traditions.
Ask your friends for best and worst holiday stories. And then practice your curiosity! You’re growing resources for the years ahead! Dos and don’ts are important things to learn.
Worst faux pas with in-laws
Worst holiday choices they made
Biggest holiday fights (that you can talk about!)
Best holiday celebrations.
If you have time, look at the following:
Do they have religious traditions?
How did that help or hinder their relationship?
What’s the most important thing they’ve learned about their partner during the marriage?
What’s the most important thing they’ve learned about themselves?
Tip: The more time you spend asking people about themselves and their marriage, the more information you have for building your wedding, your wedding vows and your marriage. We can actually learn from our friends’ mistakes as well as our own!
Or you could play a game and just laugh yourself silly. Or do both. Whatever you do, have a good time!